There's no rule in life that says wedding guests need to be given favors. But people do it anyway. And since they do it, why isn't there a rule that says, "If you're going to give a favor, give a decent favor or no favor at all"?
We all have access to the dollar store. No one needs any more dust collecting crap. And if they think they do, they're wrong and don't deserve a favor at all.
How many homes have you been to where they are decorated with mementos of all of the weddings they have attended?
Tons? I think not.
A couple? I'm sure everyone has one of those crazy collecting aunts...
Yours is? You know, I'm thinking this blog isn't for you.
So let's set a few rules for favor giving:
-Nothing engraved, unless it has their names. It is the biggest day of your life, but you need to keep in mind that for the majority of your guests, this is just another wedding that they're attending. And if they're in their early 20s and just out of college, probably one of six or seven weddings they're attending/participating in that year alone. Your anniversary date is special to you, and it may be to your parents as well, however, it is not special to your guests.
-Edible is good. If it can be consumed, it's probably not a bad idea. Unless you're giving Jordan Almonds.
-Jordan Almonds break teeth. Now, luckily they only break the teeth of the minute percentage of people who attempt eating them, but they break teeth just the same.
-If you're having a destination wedding, be considerate of their travels. Don't give them something breakable, something that will die if it's not in a proper habitat, or something that's heavy.
-Donations are great.
-Wine is great.
-If it has your name on it and it's disposable, it's moderately acceptable. It's not as good as something like a donation, but it's better than something that looks like it's supposed to be collecting dust forever.
-Think about the practicality. How many people in attendance at the wedding are really going to use that custom lip gloss you're using as a favor? If you're thinking that everyone will, you're wrong. Very wrong. If you're giving Christmas ornaments, are any of your guests Jewish? Golf tees with your name on it? No. Chocolate with your name on it? Sure.
FAVORS ARE NOT A NECESSITY. They're a quick little thank you. They should not be a personal memento. They know you, and now they know you're married. That's good enough.
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